A good friend who I had not talked to in a long time called the house tonight. We were catching up on careers, college, children and parents when she brought up the following subject. She said that her daughter has told her that she really doesn't like hanging out with my friend's kids. She says that they just don't have anything in common and that she doesn't feel like she should have to be friends with, and spend all of her time with, her Mom's friend's kids. I should point out, that she and I don't force our kids to hang out.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation like this? How would you or do you react? Do you basically not listen to what your own child is saying, all for the sake of spending time with your own friend? Or do you listen to your child and perhaps try to remodel the friendship, where you can be friends with this person, but the children don't really have to interact each time you are together?
For me, I have to do what's in the best interest of my own child. I told her that I have several friends who have children around The Doodlebug's age but that we don't force our children to be friends and hang out constantly. I like it if they are friends, but it's not mandatory.
Does this even make sense? LOL Anyway, thoughts on friendships and children... I'm eager to hear what you have to say.